Do you ever worry about talking to your kids about sex? Many parents get nervous thinking about it and there aren’t very many positive models for how they should be engaging with their kids. One of the most important things to do is to break up the talk into smaller pieces and spread them out. This can either be done intentionally or as things come up. Taking this approach keeps the conversation open and can diffuse the tension of trying to cover everything at once.
Our series, The Birds and Bees Made Easy, is to help show some different ways questions can be answered.
Answering “What is Sex?”
The idea of having a young child ask about sex makes most people break out into a sweat. Sex is hard enough to define for adults, never mind trying to put into a simple definition for a young child. The good news is that talking to kids is much simpler than most people expect. If we approach the conversation casually and keep relaxed, it will go a lot smoother. It’s also easier to engage in the conversation when you actively involve your child in it.
When facing the question, “What is sex?”, it’s always a good idea to find out what your child already knows. You can ask them what they think it is, or what they know about it. How they answer will help give you a clue as to what kind of answer they are looking for. If they talk about the physical aspects of it, you know that’s how you should phrase the answer.
Most of the time, kids are not looking for an in-depth and detailed explanation of everything. In many cases, simple answers will do. It’s best to start with a simple answer and then offer a bit more that they can then ask more about. Try to keep the conversation relaxed and comfortable. The more you can do this, the more your child will feel comfortable getting the information they are curious about.
Once you’ve answered all their questions, it’s always a good idea to remind them if they think of anything later, or have any questions about anything else, that they can come back to you at any time.
Parents Are the Best Resource for Their Kids
Parents guide their children in so many aspects of life and sex and relationships are important ones. They can be available at multiple points of their child’s life to offer guidance, advice, and support. On top of being a consistent source of information, parents can also ensure that their kid is getting the correct information to make smart choices.